I get questioned a lot about gift giving etiquette.
People often get confused about how to give or receive gifts when dealing with multiples.
This works two ways, but kind of the same way.
The biggest thing to remember is twins, or triplets, quads and all of Octomom's kids are individuals.
Before the Bambinos' 1st birthday, I can't tell you how many times people asked, "Am I supposed to get them both a gift?" I could tell people were embarrassed to ask, but it didn't bother me at all.
People just don't know. No shame in that!
My response then was, "No, you don't have to, I don't care if you get them presents at all." Now...I know better. I worry way too much about putting people out and making things difficult for them.
Yes, you absolutely should get them each a gift. If they had been born on different days would you get each of them a gift?
So many of my family members pointed out that they should be celebrated individually. Although there are many benefits of being a twin, they kind of get a bum deal when it comes to birthdays. They'll never get their own day that is exclusively about them. Since Boyfriend and I have the same birthday, I kind of know how this feels. At least I got 25 birthdays of my own.
It kind of works the same way with my Bambinos giving gifts: since I'm trying to treat them like individuals, if both my Bambinos are attending a birthday for a friend, they should each get that person a gift. Most likely, what I would do is get one larger gift for the child and maybe throw in something small from each of them.
As they grow older and have different friends, this will not be as much of an issue because they may not attend the same parties, but for now, their one friend, Aria, should receive two gifts or one bigger one. That means I created my own faux pas, expect a bigger gift next year, Aria!
And before you say the gifts don't matter, they do to children... and most people feel odd not bringing gifts.
Do you agree with me?How would you handle gift giving of twins or other multiples?
Don 't forget about the birthday extravaganza, the winner will be announced Friday!