Wednesday, June 27, 2012

So You're Done, Right?

I cringe when people ask me that question. I kind of get embarrassed like I should be ashamed to want more kids eventually. But you know what, I don't think I'm done, and I'm proud of it.
Only my sister would understand why this is funny - it's my gaggle of kids     via

I would love to have a little girl, but another boy is okay too. I have so much love to share with my little Bambinos and I would love to open my heart up to another little person. I would love to experience a singleton pregnancy, but another twin pregnancy is okay too. I think it's important for the Bambinos to experience having a sibling other than their twin. I don't feel I am done....yet.

It's funny 'cause the number of kids a person should have is a popular issue....but I think it's really none of their business. I'll never forget a friend adamantly stating that a family should have no more than two kids...but she's one of three herself.

People, even strangers, always say, "It must be nice to have gotten it all in one shot." I shift my weight from one leg to the other and kind of fidget in embarrassment, why do I feel like I need to justify anything to people I don't even know?!

I've gotten to the point where I don't care anymore. I absolutely want another child or two and can't wait to expand our family...someday.

10 comments:

  1. It is amazing what people feel like they can say to other people- especially about children!! I usually hear the opposite (to me and to other people). Usually it is pressure to have MORE kids! WHEN are you going to have MORE kids?!? Obviously you know this and don't need me to tell you- but ignore all those obnoxious comments!! It is your family and your life and you can have as many or as few babies as you want :)

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  2. Nothing gets me more worked up than when people say I shouldn't have any more kids. I have 3 with a 4th on the way. I'm busy, have my hands totally full, and yes, am done after this one. But you are completely right. Its no one's business. I don't tell me I should be done or I may have another one just to spite you! LOL. Good luck on your growing family when the time is right!

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  3. It doesn't annoy me, I just think it's funny how people have such a strong opinion about it - especially complete strangers. People don't usually tell me I shouldn't have more just, "It must be nice to have it done in one shot."

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  4. Yeah, it is funny that people would automatically assume that because you had twins, you are done. I love the idea of three kids. :) Of course that is unlikely for me given that I haven't even started, haha.

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  5. That is SUCH a personal topic! People think that they have the right to an opinion about YOUR uterus and really, they should keep it to themselves! Yay for more bambinos for your family :)

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  6. Ah, don't be done until you are done! It's like people asking when dating "when are you going to get married?" And then when you're married, you hear "when are you having kids?" and then we heard a lot of, after 10 years and in the midst of infertility, "why don't you just adopt?" People just can't help themselves. I'll never understand why people feel they need to give unsolicited advice!

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  7. People seriously don't think before they talk!

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  8. I used to want somewhere around 12 children when I was growing up. Both of my parents came from extemely large families. My mom was the 1st of 12 kids and my dad was 5th of 9. It seemed normal to me to have a lot of kids. The number of children that you and your spouse want is completely up to you. How annoying/sad that anyone would try to make you feel bad for wanting more. I think children are a blessing. I hope that you have as many of those lil' cuties as your heart desires. :)

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  9. ugh i totally know this feeling i have a boy and a girl and i would love a 3rd...maybe even a 4th someday.......everyone ...i mean EVERYONE says ...."Well i hope youre done now!" ....it's no ones business ...i support both mine with my own money....so if we want more its our choice....no one should tell you how many kids you should have

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  10. I don't understand why people have such strong opinions about what a family looks like. I wrote something like this a few years ago (http://www.easilyentertainedblog.com/2011/04/me-and-my-boys.html). We have two boys and I CONSTANTLY get asked when we're trying for a girl. Guess what people, Jacob had a vasectomy! We're done! Haha.

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