1. Have twins first! I point out to people that I will never have just one child. I don't know what it's like to have only one child so I'm not sure if having twins is harder than having singletons. To find out I was having twins, I was shocked, but so happy. I wasn't nervous, at all. Ever. I think taking care of three drug affected newborns for 8 hours a week for five years really helped prepare me. I thought, If I can take care of 3 drug babies, I can take care of two un-drug addicted babies.
2. Multitask! I am the queen of multi-tasking. This was a typical night for me.
Those two bottles are my base coat and quick dry topcoat - Out the Door. The topcoat is amazing! It's like Seche Vite, but it's not unhealthy for you. It's meant to be put on wet and dries in less than 10 minutes. I put a coat on after my base coat and on top of my color to quickly seal and dry both steps. If it weren't for the Out the Door, I wouldn't paint my nails. I'm obsessive that they not be smudged but I can't sit still long enough for a normal color to dry.
What you don't see is this
This little baby was suggested to me by Juliana from A Blonde Walks Into a Blog and it was a lifesaver! It's a sports bra with two holes cut in it so I could pump at the same time.
3. Get help! I'm stubborn in the fact that I want to do things myself to learn from them. I'm not one of those people that you can tell me about your situation and I'll learn from it, I need to experience things myself. With that being said, I refused all help from people when the Bambinos were first born. For one, our house is small and I just didn't want a ton of people over all the time. It was enough having our friends and family coming over to see the Bambinos. Two, I wanted to settle into having our own family and doing things our way. We settled into a routine pretty quickly, but nothing would have been as successful as it was if it weren't for this guy
B is such an involved dad and the best partner I could ever ask for. When I was on maternity leave and home with the Bambinos all day, he would rush home and make me lunch, he would make sure I got to take a nap even if the boys were still awake. He's fantastic at making us dinner every night, doing laundry (when I let him), tidying the house, and everything else you could imagine. He gets home a good 4 hours before me so most of the housework is finished before I even get home freeing me to spend time with the Bambinos and do minor things around the house.
Sometimes I get frustrated that he's so clean (that's the number one things we disagree about, he's much more anal than I am) but I understand how fortunate I am that him being too clean (and me not enough, in his opinion) is the biggest problem we have. I'd much rather disagree about that than whether or not he's taking care of the boys, or cheating on me, hanging out with his friends too much and us not enough, or just an all around mean person. I know that I never have to worry about things like that with him and I'm so grateful. Friends with one baby tell me all the time, "I don't know how you do it with two, one is hard enough," but I point out I don't know what just one is like, and B is a huge help. I seriously don't know how I would take care of the Bambinos and the house and go to work without his help. He is the reason I can do "it."