Monday, March 12, 2012

Mama Says: How She Does It

A few people have asked me how I do "it." In all honesty, I thought having twins was going to be complete chaos. Luckily, my overactive imagination prepared me for a life much more chaotic than mine actually is. But, I thought I'd share my tips for surviving the first year with multiples.

1. Have twins first! I point out to people that I will never have just one child. I don't know what it's like to have only one child so I'm not sure if having twins is harder than having singletons. To find out I was having twins, I was shocked, but so happy. I wasn't nervous, at all. Ever. I think taking care of three drug affected newborns for 8 hours a week for five years really helped prepare me. I thought, If I can take care of 3 drug babies, I can take care of two un-drug addicted babies.

2. Multitask! I am the queen of multi-tasking. This was a typical night for me.
 I'm fortunate that my children consistently go to bed at 7pm. We established that as their bedtime very early on. Of course, sometimes they end up staying up a little later, but only on special occasions. I'm on the computer, either blogging, checking facebook, responding to emails or whatever, but also, I have two little bottles sitting on the arm of the couch.

Those two bottles are my base coat and quick dry topcoat - Out the Door. The topcoat is amazing! It's like Seche Vite, but it's not unhealthy for you. It's meant to be put on wet and dries in less than 10 minutes. I put a coat on after my base coat and on top of my color to quickly seal and dry both steps. If it weren't for the Out the Door, I wouldn't paint my nails. I'm obsessive that they not be smudged but I can't sit still long enough for a normal color to dry.

What you don't see is this

This little baby was suggested to me by Juliana from A Blonde Walks Into a Blog and it was a lifesaver! It's a sports bra with two holes cut in it so I could pump at the same time.
So basically, every evening, I would be on the computer, pumping while sometimes painting my nails too. If it weren't for that amazing contraption, I wouldn't be able to do anything while pumping. To get enough milk for one bottle I had to pump for half and hour. Since I had two babies to feed I was always tied to the pump.

3. Get help! I'm stubborn in the fact that I want to do things myself to learn from them. I'm not one of those people that you can tell me about your situation and I'll learn from it, I need to experience things myself. With that being said, I refused all help from people when the Bambinos were first born. For one, our house is small and I just didn't want a ton of people over all the time. It was enough having our friends and family coming over to see the Bambinos. Two, I wanted to settle into having our own family and doing things our way. We settled into a routine pretty quickly, but nothing would have been as successful as it was if it weren't for this guy
B is such an involved dad and the best partner I could ever ask for. When I was on maternity leave and home with the Bambinos all day, he would rush home and make me lunch, he would make sure I got to take a nap even if the boys were still awake. He's fantastic at making us dinner every night, doing laundry (when I let him), tidying the house, and everything else you could imagine.  He gets home a good 4 hours before me so most of the housework is finished before I even get home freeing me to spend time with the Bambinos and do minor things around the house.

Sometimes I get frustrated that he's so clean (that's the number one things we disagree about, he's much more anal than I am) but I understand how fortunate I am that him being too clean (and me not enough, in his opinion) is the biggest problem we have. I'd much rather disagree about that than whether or not he's taking care of the boys, or cheating on me, hanging out with his friends too much and us not enough, or just an all around mean person. I know that I never have to worry about things like that with him and I'm so grateful. Friends with one baby tell me all the time, "I don't know how you do it with two, one is hard enough," but I point out I don't know what just one is like, and B is a huge help. I seriously don't know how I would take care of the Bambinos and the house and go to work without his help. He is the reason I can do "it."

This post is already a lot longer than I expected so look for part 2 next Monday!

10 comments:

  1. I love this post!!! Question: you work, right? Do you feel like the early bedtime cuts into your time with the babies? I only ask because I'm worried about that once Baby BUB is here.

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  2. I'm SOOOO glad I'm not the only mother that did early bedtimes, early on! I know far too many people who would put their kids to bed at 11-12 at night!!! My kids at the LATEST are in bed at 8pm, but usually closer to 7.

    I love that you posted the bra picture! It makes me happy!!! :)

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  3. Ahhhh....you are showing THE LOVE mamacita!!!! I love it. YOU are hilarious...love the pump bra pic. Super great!!! GO B!!!! You are great too, I see. I know...help makes all the difference.

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  4. You are a wonder mom! I liked reading this. Also have you every tried OPI's drying drops? They are amazing you put a couple drops on your nails after youre done painting and they are dry in like two minutes :)

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  5. I'm really impressed that you're able to keep it all together and look pretty doing it. :) I'm really busy too, but I can't imagine having to be on the ball enough to take care of two little ones 24/7. Suffice to say, my nails are chipped right now. But what is this specific top coat you're talking about? What brand, and where can I find it?

    It's awesome that B is such a good help and that he cleans. Matt and I argue about cleaning a lot, b/c I'm more clean than him (and I'm not that great about it--he's just really messy). He says that having a sink/counter full of dishes just doesn't bother him as much as it bothers me . . . but then I get pissed that I have to cook/clean more than he does. Ugh.

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  6. Seriously! I don't know if I could handle twins, but if you have to, you have to, right?! ;)

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  7. I love this post so much! It is a WONDER how you and B are doing it all....and loving every minute of it :) But it sounds like you guys have a good system in place that works for you.

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  8. That bra is hilarious!! your boys are adorable!

    New Follower!
    Emily

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  9. I absolutely loved reading more about what it is like with you and the twins. It sounds like hubs is amazing and there every step, love him for that!!!

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  10. HA! Nevermind about the Out the Door- got it! :)

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