Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Target Tuesday: Whole New Outfit

It's Target Tuesday with Fabulous but Evil!

I'm loving some of the stuff Target has right now (don't I always?) This is what I got recently:
 I actually started this post at 6am and couldn't find the dress on Target's website. Then, I had to do this thing called work and am just now finishing the post, so you'll have to settle for a picture of me! Ugh. Please ignore the wonderful salmon/white wall behind me. Boyfriend's house is in a constant state of projects.

I'm kind of in love with this dress and I can't wait to wear it with tights and these shoes, (but in black):
 You know what's (not) funny? I could wear the outfit tomorrow and not look out of place. Our high was supposed to be only 68 today. I'm so over this crappy weather.

Monday, August 29, 2011

Mama Says: Mama Laughlin

Today's Mama Says Mama fascinates me. I've always had weight and food issues. Before I found out I was pregnant, I was working out pretty much every day and was finally getting the trim, toned legs I've always wanted. Then suddenly, I was too tired to work out. What does that have to do with today's Mama? Today's Mam is Brandi from Mama Laughlin, she went from fat to fit and pregnant again (her words!) She so inspired me and I promised myself that if I were to get pregnant in a few years, I will look to Brandi and do as she did. What does she do? Here, let her tell you......

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Hello Undomestic Chica readers!
My name is Mama Laughlin and I'm not your typical mommy blogger.


I write about the shit no one wants to talk about, like poop, baby weight, and whatever else my little heart desires.

I'm not your average "wholesome, Betty Crocker" mom either.
I like recipes that take less than 30 minutes, I cuss, I offend several, and I just don't care.
It's my blog, right? So why change the content to please everyone? It's not possible anyway!
Someone's always gonna have a stick up their ass and leave a few rude comments. It's part of it.

I have a 2 year old little boy who is the light of my life, and another one due in November!


After having my son in September of 2009 I lost over 60 lbs. and declared myself a MILF.


I blogged about my weight loss and posted progression pictures with every 10 lbs. I lost.
I found out, that through this blogging community I was able to help other mom's with their weight struggles and for me, there was no bigger reward.

I was a fat bride


an even fatter pregnant lady

and then a fat mom.

That's when I'd had it and decided to change my life. And I did just that. For all the internets to see.

And then I got pregnant with number 2, and while this pregnancy is MUCH different than my last, on most days I still feel quite Large and In Charge...another great part of pregnancy...

And now, 28 weeks pregnant

This pregnancy I'm doing things totally different.

I'm still running (even though these days it's more of a waddle/jog), lifting weights, and staying active.
With my last pregnancy I didn't move off the couch but to go to the freezer for ice cream. It also helps that I have an active 2 year old to chase after these days.

I workout 3-4 times a week and plan to continue to do so right up until I deliver.
I feel amazing this pregnancy and have had no complications, swelling, or anything otherwise. I truly feel that is because I've stayed so active this time.

With my last pregnancy I was in physical pain from carrying 217 lbs. of fat and baby (okay, mainly fat) around day in and day out!

It took a toll on my body every day. My feet swelled, I had horrendous back pain, I couldn't sleep, I snored, etc.

I was miserable.
But now, however, I feel amazing!

Other than my weight struggles, I am also a full time working mom.
I feel like I need that time away to be an adult and have a reason to dress up every day and put on makeup.
I truly believes it keeps me sane and makes me a better wife and mom.
Most days my house is a mess, dinner is cooked in some sort of casserole dish, I'm lucky to get in a 30 minute workout, and there is laundry sitting in the dryer from 2 days ago.

But honestly, I wouldn't have it any other way.

Now don't ask me how I'm going to balance all this with TWO kids... I guess we'll figure that out as we go!







I was a featured Mama!
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See? Inspiring! Thank you, Brandi!

Are you interested in being a Mama Says featured blogger? Let me know in the comments! AND, did you see that new button up there?! If you have the old Mama Says button on your blog, feel free to post the new one instead.

Friday, August 26, 2011

Fear

Recently, someone asked me If I Were Not Afraid I Would_____. Well that's a loaded question. If I were not afraid, I would do a lot of things. I feel like I'm at a pivotal turning point in my life where I want more. I've just kind of felt.....unfulfilled lately. I feel like I'm meant to do something more than I am right now.

How did I answer her question? If I were not afraid, I would sit at home and play with the Bambinos all day. Sadly, that is not an option. I wish it were. I don't think I could ever not bring in income, mainly because Boyfriend and I are not married and I don't think he should have to pay for my car. But, I'm terrified of missing firsts.
My sister has gone back to school so the new nanny started Monday. She said the Bambinos were playing with each other's feet cracking up, and I missed it. This is the first time they've made each other laugh and I missed it!

That kills me.

If I were not afraid, I would market small businesses from home. I've been in marketing long enough, I know there's people out there who need good ideas, I know I can help their businesses grow.

If I were not afraid, I would take a photography class. I will do this, but I don't feel like I can make a living without a ton more practice. I've wanted to take photography since high school. It's time for me to bite the bullet and just do it, even if it's something for me to keep on the side as a hobby.
If I were not afraid, I would open a cupcake shop/bakery. It's no secret around here that I can't cook. I LOVE to bake though. I love the feeling you get from bringing home-baked goods to parties and seeing smiles on people's face knowing, "I did that." I even have a name.

I've always thought I was meant to have a home-based or self-run business. With the arrival of my precious Bambinos, I feel the tug even more. What's holding me back is the financial aspect. I don't feel like I can tell someone that I'm not married to, "Hey, I'm going to quit my job and we're going to live off your income for a while so I can get this project off the ground." I think he'd be supportive, but I still just can't bring myself to do it.

Fear's a funny thing, isn't it?

Don't get me wrong, I love my job, I really do. And luckily for me, I'm one of the bosses so I do so much more than pass out bumper stickers at events (which is how most people think of Promotions.) But, I can't be doing the same thing when I'm 50 and our station is aimed at 20-year-olds. I'm thinking much more long term here.

I just have the feeling I'm meant to do something much more creative, even if it's just on the side, for now. Now if only I can get rid of that fear.

If you were not afraid, what would you do?

Thursday, August 25, 2011

I Need A New Name

I need a new blog name. I've never really liked the "Chica," and I just don't feel like a Chica. I like Undomestic Mama but there's already an Undomestic Momma. I believe her blog is private now but I still don't want to infringe on her brand if she ever makes it public again. Am I over thinking this too much? 

When I started this blog, I had just moved into an apartment, had been dating Boyfriend for almost 9 months and  my focus was mainly decorating my apartment, my job, my dog and my boyfriend. Now so much has changed: I'm living in B's house, it's been about 2 years 9 months, we have twin boys(!)...my focus has changed a bit. 


Do you have any ideas for me? I'd like to keep the Undomestic, but Undomestic.....what?


I'm redesigning the blog too....it's taking me forever though because I've seriously only been getting 15 minute increments. Such is the life of a M.O.M. I guess :)

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Moobies

The last decent picture I have of us. After this I turned into a cow.
The other day, Boyfriend and I were arguing because he's very clean and organized and if I leave anything for 2.5 seconds he cleans up after me. This may sound like domestic bliss to you, but I HATE cleaning and actually like doing the laundry and that's what we were arguing about.

Me: Please, just leave the laundry alone when  I do it, I actually like doing it.
Boyfriend: It's no big deal, you were at work, I just put it away.
Me: Yeah but I told you I want to pull my weight more around here and try to be cleaner.
Boyfriend: You do, you feed my boys. I can't do it.....my moobies don't work.


What the heck?!? I couldn't do anything but laugh.

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Are You Kidding Me?!

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I may get skinned a live but I think it's ridiculous that Swaddle Designs has started making Angry Birds burp cloths, swaddle blankets, sleep sacks and loveys. I mean, I'm all for flinging birds at those fat pieces of bacon but really, I would not want my children donning a piece of Angry Birds fashion. Furthermore, I think the people who would have taken their gaming obsession to an all new low.

Apparently I'm the only one. In a Pop Sugar Poll, 72% of people said they're cute (at the time I looked anyways.)

What do you think? Do you love Angry Birds so much that you'd pre-order any of these pieces?

Monday, August 22, 2011

Mama Says: Our Little Family

It's another Mama Says Monday! Today I'm featuring one of my faves: Annie from Our Little Family. She has the most adorable little, blonde babes. We were pregnant at the same time so it was a lot of fun reading her blog knowing exactly how she felt.... Anyway, here's Annie!

 Hey Lindsay’s readers!!  I am so excited to be featured today :)

My name is Annie.  I am a working mama of two.  My hubby and I have a son, Blake William, who is 2 and a half and we have a daughter, Olivia Kay, who is 8 months old!  My family seriously makes my world complete!  I just love them SO much.  It is crazy how your life changes so fast after having babies...but I wouldn’t change it for the world!!

I work out of the home full-time, so one of my biggest challenges is balancing everything.  I am still trying to figure out everything that it takes to be a mama, wife, career woman, friend, housekeeper, chef, etc.!  Honestly, some days I feel that there are just not enough hours in the day to do it all!  (and that is probably the reason that some days my home is a disaster and there is not a hot meal on the table at 5 o’clock!!....housekeeper and chef are at the bottom of my “list” :)).

I struggle with the fact that I work 40+ hours a week and feel guilt for leaving my babies.  Sometimes I feel like I would rather be a SAHM….but then I think long and hard about it….and I honestly don’t know if I could do it!  I give all of you SAHM’s some mad props!  I actually LIKE my job.  I am the Assistant Director of Alumni Relations at a state University here in Michigan.  It makes me feel accomplished and successful.  I like adult conversation and planning events.  Plus, I worked long and hard on obtaining my bachelors and Masters degrees…and really feel like I should put them to good use!!

Luckily I have a VERY strong support system.  My husband is the most hands on dad EVER.  He never hesitates to do ANYTHING when it comes to his babies.  I also have my mom.  She retired when I got pregnant with Blake.  She watches the babies part time.  They attend a day care facility part time as well… we are SO lucky to have the best day care ever!  It is so structured.  The kids “teachers” are amazing.  I just know that they are benefiting from being there and learning so much.



For ME (and this is just ME…) I think that being a working mama makes me a better mama.  I seriously CANNOT WAIT to see their sweet faces at 5:00.  I rush home and spend the rest of my time just snuggling with them.  Being away from them during the day makes me appreciate every moment that I have with them!!


SO….although I do not have the balancing act all figured out (and probably never will) I wouldn’t change my life for anything in the world.  I guess I like my life a little hectic and a little crazy….because, that’s just how we roll :)!!


 See? Adorable! She's not the only one who struggles with being a working mom. I like it but hate it at the same time. Next Monday, we have a very special post, check back and see who it is...


If you're interested in being featured, let me know either in the comments or an email: UndomesticChica@gmail.com

Friday, August 19, 2011

True Life: Am I A Mommy Blogger?

I still don't consider myself a mommy blogger. I'm a mommy, and I'm a blogger but I don't feel like a mommy blogger. When I think of Mommy Bloggers, I think of women (or men) who write fantastic posts all about their children and the fun things they do with them. These women (or men) are open, honest and carefree. I feel like they usually have an etsy shop (or some other neat-o job), take amazing photos and dress their children up like little J Crew models.

I'm not there yet. 
I shared the news of my pregnancy with my readers before most people at work. I told you about the weird gender dreams I was having (I was right!) I shared the ups and downs of my pregnancy, I gave a few pregnancy updates, even when I felt big and huge (which was very early on in the pregnancy!)  I shared with you the pictures of the Bambinos before I put any on facebook, or told our co-workers about them. (Said co-workers facebook-stalked all day knowing I was having a c-section.) I've shared with you the monthly pictures (except their 7th - oops! I still need to take those.) I share the ridiculous photos I take of the boys on holidays. I have a series of guest posts centered around Mamas, and oh yeah, I write a whole other blog completely dedicated to my bambinos.

Does that make me a mommy blogger? I may be a bit scared of the internet and putting my children's faces all over it. Our story may be a little different than most people (backwards is the new forwards) but I wouldn't change a thing in my life, my blog, my readers, anything. 
If that makes me a mommy blogger, I'll wear the badge proudly and accept me for what I am: an undomestic girl, trying to make her way in the world raising twins with her boyfriend while making sure she's the best possible version of herself.

And I'm working on the modeling part.

Thursday, August 18, 2011

First Family Vacation - Chelan Day One

Mama needed a vacation! Last Tuesday, I took four days off work, packed up the Bambinos and Auntie Nee Nee and headed to Chelan. After being sure I packed everything, we got To Chelan and realized I forgot hats for the boys and beach towels too. We kind of forgot that we're privileged to live in a bigger city so Chelan's little Safeway didn't have what we needed. I asked our checker and he sent us on our way to Wal Mart.

Have I ever mentioned how much I hate WalMart? It's started out because of the way the used to treat their employees, but now it's just 'cause the WalMart close to us is run-down and ghetto. I ended up trying to hunt down smaller life vests (the ones I brought with were for babies 20+ pounds, the boys....are not.)
This one didn't work, but I did end up with some awesome little ones that were still too big but better than nothing....and some cute pictures.
I know these are watermarked for my other blog...I'm lazy super busy today
I didn't buy these hats but they were pretty cute! Too bad the Bambinos have no idea who Sponge Bob is. After a successful shopping trip, we headed to the hotel to enjoy our Safeway Chinese food :)

Monday, August 15, 2011

Mama Says: Baby P Makes Three....

It's another Mama Says! This time, we're hearing from Loni at Baby P Makes Three... I have to admit, I was very jealous that she got back into such great shape so quickly after having P. Anyway, here's what she has to say about being a Mama:
 I first laid eyes on Dustin when I was 18 years old and a freshman in college.  I remember thinking he was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen ….and then he opened his mouth.  I don't know if it was because he was 'shy' or if he was really just as arrogant as I thought he was but either way, we didn't make a connection.

Fast forward 4 years to the age of myspace.  There was his pretty little face on a friend of mine's page.  I thought 'oh what the heck' and sent him a friend request.  Shortly after he wrote back the cheesiest message I had ever received and somehow, with all it's cheesy pick up lines and  ridiculous compliments I am sure he sent to 50 other girls on his myspace page, it made me laugh and we hung out a day later.  After that we were inseparable.

Within 6 months of dating he was offered a job in California (we lived in Michigan).  He asked me to go with him.   At first I was unsure and all of our families were pretty much against it for their own ridiculous (selfish) reasons.  But I had faith in us and took the leap!  

The rest is history.

A super long engagement (due to planning a wedding from across the country), another cross country move, a beautiful wedding, another move to another state, and a positive pee stick later we became parents to the most beautiful, sweetest little lady I've ever laid eyes on.  Sure I'm biased but I dare you to argue with me.

We had originally thought we would wait to have children but once we moved to Illinois Dustin got baby fever.  Yep, that's right.  He was the one wanting a baby, I was still a little iffy.  After a month or so of thinking things through I too jumped on board thinking it would take awhile to get pregnant.  Much to my surprise 2 months later I officially had a bun in the oven.  

We found out at 15 weeks that the baby on board had two x chromosomes.  I had a feeling from the day I saw the two pink lines it was a girl but my lack of pregnancy symptoms had people convincing me it was a boy.  I'm not going to lie.  All my life I thought I'd have a boy first.  I WANTED a boy first.  Maybe that came from having a big brother and thought my precious little girl would need someone to watch over her.  When I found out it was a girl I was a little sad but a few short days later I was beyond thrilled to think I was going to have a daughter.  And come to find out, I think she is already feisty enough that she will never need a boy to watch over her.   I vowed not to paint her room pink and dress her in all pink, but boy did that change.  Somehow the tom boy in me disappeared completely and I was seeing pink.  Tutus, bows, glitter, I had to have it all. And yes, somehow her nursery walls ended up…well…pink!

My pregnancy was pretty boring.  My midwife had a few concerns about preterm labor due to a surgery I had when I was young but after seeing the high risk doctor a few times for ultrasounds on my cervix I was cleared and able to continue my pregnancy with my two amazing midwives.  Funny how they were concerned about preterm labor and I ended up being late.  I would much rather her be late than too early any day though.  

On October 27, 2010 at 1:41pm my stubborn girl finally decided it was time to leave my comfortable womb.  Unlike mommy who is always early to everything, she decided she needed some encouragement from some cervidal to get her butt moving.  A week late.  Giving birth was the most amazing experience of my life.  It was the most excruciating pain I had ever felt and afterwards the most incredible love I had ever felt.  I knew I loved her from the moment I found out I was pregnant but actually meeting this perfect little stranger took the love to a entirely different level.  When I laid eyes on this person that we created, it was breathtaking.  My very own mini me.  A head full of hair, a cute little nose, and big ears!  I had been watching every baby show on tv and expected her to come out all funky looking.  You know, head misshaped, covered in blood, guts, and gunk, grey colored skin but she was the complete opposite.  A diva since the day she was born, I tell ya!  I think she cleaned herself off and did her hair before coming out into the world.  She was perfectly pink, had only a tiny bit of blood on her perfect big ol' head.
We had a rough first few months, from breastfeeding pain (nobody tells you about bleeding nipples or how bad it can hurt some women), to colic that I thought would never end.  Some days I wondered what the heck we had gotten ourselves into and if life would ever settle down, or at least quiet down (ohh, my poor, poor, ears) a bit.  I felt so helpless for awhile and I was sure that I was the worlds worst mama.  It had to be the most frustrating time of my entire life.  It was literally hours and hours a day of nothing but screaming bloody murder.  Car rides were even worse.  Whoever said babies love cars obviously hadn't met Baby P.  It was like she was Satan's spawn!  I took her to the doctor a few times looking for answers but every single time she checked out 100% fine.  Which frustrated me even more.  At one point I was hoping something was wrong, an ear infection?  An allergy?  SOMETHING to explain why this was happening.  And then one day, something amazing happened.  She stopped screaming.  She just stopped!  

I feel literally like it was overnight.  She just woke up one morning and turned off her grumpy switch.  It was over!  Ever since then she has been so easy going and sweet.  Content with just playing with her toys on the floor and talking to her dogs.

Did Dustin take her to an exorcism that night?  I seriously wonder that.
That had to be my biggest challenge not only as a parent but in my life in general.  I was completely and utterly exhausted (did I mention P didn't like to sleep but 1-2 hours at a time for about 6.5 months?), I had sore boobies, swamp ass (no really - you smell horrible after childbirth and nobody warns you about this beforehand - if you've had a baby you know what I'm talking about), and on top of all that I had to listen to screaming all day long.  I don't know how I didn't end up in the nut house.  Thank god Dustin works from home because sometimes I would have to just go into his office and say "your turn" and go get in the shower so I couldn't hear her crying and then I would cry.  I would cry and cry and cry just as much as her.  The guilt was horrible.  I wanted to fix her so bad but I couldn't.  Mama's with a colicky baby, I feel your pain.  I know how hard it is but there is a light at the end of that dark and long tunnel I promise.  It seems like it will last forever, but it doesn't.  Luckily in baby time, it goes by so, so, so fast.  I barely remember those days.  And honestly, that sort of makes me sad.  Sort of.
My life has changed so much since becoming a parent.  Everything I do I think of P and how it will effect her.  I have always been a homebody but now it's even worse.  I don't want to go out unless it's with her to somewhere probably for her, be it a playgroup, a museum, the zoo, the library.  All these things I want to show her that she won't even remember doing at this age.  I have become such a worry wort.  I still have yet to leave her alone with anyone!  I know, I know, I know, I probably should and I probably should go on a date with Dustin some day but it's hard.  And considering we live far away from any family and most friends it makes it even harder.  Our date nights now have a third (incredibly adorable) wheel, Baby P.  I worry about everything and question myself over and over again on things.  Sometimes I freak out over little things like if I forgot to buy organic strawberries to make her food.  Are non organic strawberries going to cause her to have ADHD some day?  I tell myself that all parents make mistakes and if that's the worst thing I have done thus far I think I might be doing okay.  It is so, so, so, scary to walk out of that hospital after giving birth knowing that you are in charge of this little person.  You have to make sure she grows up happy and healthy.  You have to show her the ways of the world and teach her right from wrong.  I guess all those things are a little more important than organic strawberries.  

Thanks Loni! Colick was one of my biggest fears while I was pregnant, it's so nice to hear that you survived! Wanna get yourself in on some of the cute-bows-that-P-wears-action? Loni makes them, and you can order them from her! (No, she did not ask me to plug her shop, I just want to.) 

I hope you'll come back next week for a post from Annie at Our Little Family....wanna be a featured Mama? Just let me know in the comments or shoot me an email!

Friday, August 12, 2011

Still on Vacay..Sneek Peak

Happy Friday!
 I'm still on vacation and we get no internet at my grandma's, so I wanted to leave you with this picture and tell you to pop back in Monday for Mama Says with Loni from  Baby P Makes Three. She tells us all about having a baby with colic (a huge fear of mine while I was pregnant!)

Thursday, August 11, 2011

First Family Vacation (Minus Boyfriend)

 For once, I'm not saying, "Woo hoo it's Thursday!" Why? Because I've been in Chelan since Tuesday and we're leaving today. It's okay though, my vacation isn't over yet, we're heading to Eastern Washington to visit my family. But I will miss looking out our balcony onto the lake.

Yesterday we tried actually going to the lake but the grass was too wet and there were a ton of gnats, so instead I decided to take the bambinos to the pool.
This was the extent of our lake adventure. We got all set up, then decided the pool was a better option.

The pool was much better, except apparently there was a guy lurking that had been taking pics of people in the pool. Another mama of a small baby boy heard about it, walked right up to the guy and said, "Hey pervert, get outta here!" he left, thank goodness!

I wish we had just one more day here, but I'd like to take a family vacation every summer so maybe next year!

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