Monday, September 12, 2011

Mama Says: Adventures in Mommyhood

Happy Monday! Today's guest blogger is Victoria from Adventures in Mommyhood. She's covering something I've always wondered about: how you decide you're ready for another child.

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Hi everyone! I'm excited to be guest blogging over here at Undomestic Chica today! My name is Victoria, I'm 27, and am currently a stay at home mom, but will enter nursing school some time next year. I have already finished half of the program, I just have to get on the awful long waiting list for the clinical portion which is an excellent opportunity to stay home with my kiddos meanwhile.  
My husband is Irwin, a 35 year old Professional Computer Nerd from Norway. My father's side of the family is also from Norway and that is where we met. Want the story of why and how I have traveled all over the world? Click here! 
 
On January 5th, 2008 we got married on the beautiful island of Key Biscayne, just off of Miami, Florida.  
Then on October 24th, 2008, this little guy decided to join us:  
Jake is now almost 3 years old and we can not believe how time is flying! Just recently, on July 23rd 2011, this little guy joined us making us a family of 4!
 
I'll admit it now. I was TERRIFIED of becoming pregnant again and expanding our family. Our first had colic from hell, reflux and a milk allergy so for the first 10 months all he did was cry it seemed. As a first time mommy I was so distraught and upset that I couldn't just fix him! I always knew I wanted 3-4 kids though and really wanted Jake to have sibling so I finally just bit the bullet and did it! 

There were a few factors that gave me the courage to go ahead and have another baby even though I was scared. I always knew I wanted our kids to be close in age, 2-3 years apart was always the number in my head. As we approached Jake's 2nd birthday I knew that it had to be crunch time if I wanted the age gap to be under 3 years. I was not mentally ready before Jake turned 2 so it was only then that I started to be ok with the idea. Another reason was age. Both my husband and I always wanted to be "young parents" with me always saying I'd like to be done having kids by the time I'm 30 or close to it. I was 26 last year so I knew if I wanted 2-3 more kids I better get moving.. also Irwin is 8 years older than I am so at 34 he really didn't want to be much older when we had our future children. Finally, I lined up more help! When Jake was born I only had my husband there to help and he only took one week off work. This was not nearly enough when I was recovering from a c-section and had a very difficult baby. I knew next time had to be different! So we agreed that he would take 3 weeks off of work next time and his mom agreed to fly over from Norway and stay with us for a month to help out. Without those two things I don't think I would have had another one.. at least not then.

I have to say life with 2 has been wonderful so far and Justin is my reward for having such a hard baby the first time. He is the sweetest baby and his big brother Jake just loves and adores him (something else I worried about!). I'm only a little over a month in, but I wish I hadn't of stressed about this my whole pregnancy because life is definitely easier than I had imagined. I'm even already looking forward to the next baby lol! (and yes with two baby boys I would love a little girl next time, something a lot of people don't care or admit to.. but I will!) We'd love for you to join us on this trip through parenthood :) So come visit, click around, feel at home.

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Thanks Victoria!  Would you like to be featured? Let me know in the comments :)

2 comments:

  1. I just love victoria and her boys! I think she should have talked about her VBAC though! What an amazing mama!

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  2. What cute boys! And what a blonde family! :)

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