Monday, August 8, 2011

Mama Says: JAG

Today's Mama Says blogger I'm super excited about. Well, I'm excited about them all, actually. It's Jenn from Jagged Little Life! He story is so different than my own and she seems to have this mama thing down. Anyway, enough from me, take it away Jenn!


I'm actually a little nervous about guest posting.. it's my first time! I am used to my audience of mostly people I know, or have come to know through blogging... so be kind :) 
 My name is Jenn, and I'm a recovering teenage mom. (ha!) No really... I had my son when I was one month shy of 17, and have been scrambling to stay on top of things ever since. I mean, I've done alright for myself: I graduated high school early, moved across the country, got married and graduated with a four year degree. Then last year I moved my little family to the middle of the desert to start my post grad career. 
You would think my overwhelmed 16 year old self would be pleased with how things turned out 8 years down the road. All that hard work and fancy education would pay off and life would be a cake walk now. But I didn't realize that being a younger mom would still be an issue by the time we got to this point. WRONG

The fears and stress of an overworked, undergraduate momma who didn't fit in to the college mold were gone. But they were replaced with the fears and stress of being the youngest mom in school and realizing that I would have to make friends before my son could. I thought elementary school was going to be a breeze!  I loved elementary school and was so stoked for Caleb to start. We had moved to Las Vegas the month before and Caleb had been so child-size-friend deprived, that he was enamored with the idea of spending every day with a school full of new friends. He couldn't wait for sleep overs and birthday parties. He had a blast every day at school with his new buddies, but then he would come home to us at night and on weekends... begging for friends to invite him over or for them to come over here. 

Except, no one had invited him. By the first week of school I had already ridden the bus home with my new best friend Kara and planned slumber parties with girls named Tori and Macy in first grade. Why wasn't anyone inviting us?! And how could I invite anyone when I didn't know their numbers or their parents? It was in October that I realized I needed to do something or he would be the only kid not invited to the best birthday party that year, or something! I sent a note to his best buddy Gavin... with my phone number on it, suggesting a park play date. TWO WEEKS later, his mom finally called me and we met up. 

 It was awkward at first when we went through introductions. She was exactly 10 years older than me, which I know really shouldn't matter but I could tell by my first encounter with her that it would. When your child is 7 years old and everyone in his class is being raised by people born in the eighties, when you were a classic nineties girl... it's a little hard to make friends. It shouldn't be, I know. But it is. Those moms had NKOTB on their walls and Rob Lowe. I had NSYNC and Jonathan Taylor Thomas. BIG DIFF
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 But you know what? I could tell that this was the only way my son was going to get invited to birthday parties, and be involved with his friends outside of school. The world is no longer a place where you can send your son home on the bus with a child who's house you have never been to. You can't schedule a sleepover with out at least three play dates with a parent, and no one is going to go out of their way to meet you so your child can have friends. So I decided to do the ground work instead. Why should he suffer because I couldn't wait 10 years to grow up?

So I sucked it up, and went outside my comfort zone and made friends. It wasn't easy or authentic at first. But now that we have gotten those few awkward first play dates out of the way, it turns out we have a few things in common. Like raising 7 year olds who both love super heroes and Transformers. Oh and we both like wine. 

Even if you had children at an acceptable age, chances are you are going to run into some issues like making sure he/she has friends when they get to elementary school. Here are some tactics that have worked for me.

Top 7 Ways to be a Parent Everyone Likes So Your 7 Year Old is Cool:

Hang out at the neighborhood pool every weekend, 
BRING A COOLER OF JUICE BOXES and SNACKS. (Maybe some beer too)


Sign up for sports every season. 
BRING THE BEST SNACK, MAKE THE BEST DIP FOR THE PARTIES


Go to EVERY school function. 
DON'T WEAR ANYTHING TIGHT OR LOW CUT, SO MOMS WANT TO TALK TO YOU


Go to every single birthday party. 
BE CREATIVE, DON'T BUY SOMETHING GENERIC. WHEN IN DOUBT:
Boy = Latest Superhero, Girl = Disney Princess Something



If your child keeps bringing up names of people he likes in class. 
MAKE IT A POINT TO MEET THE PARENT, NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES.


If you can volunteer for any school event or in the class. 
DO IT. 

Invite everyone in the class to his birthday
DON'T HALF ASS IT. MAKE SURE IT'S THE BEST PARTY OF THE YEAR.


See? She has this mama thing figured out! I told you it was so fun seeing how different everyone's stories are. Come back next Monday (and every day in between for other posts) to hear from Loni at Baby P Makes Three.



5 comments:

  1. This was an awesome guest post and you have accomplished so much. The thing though about being a parent everyone likes is pretty funny and true, haha!

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  2. GREAT post!!!

    Smart mama and a VERY cute little guy :)

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  3. What great tips! I'll have to remember these for when my little one gets to school :)

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  4. Thanks for asking me to guest post! I hope everyone enjoyed it! :)

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  5. What a fabulous momma!?! Good for her....it was about her SON....she never forgot that. What a lady, too!?! Great momma friends you have, Linds!!!!! Inspirations.

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