Monday, May 9, 2011

First Mother's Day

                                              My Mother's Day started out horribly.
I woke up sick
And I was mad at boyfriend
Basically, I placed an expectation on the day
and on Boyfriend
and my morning didn't live up to my expectation
so I was grumpy.

And here's where you'll realize how nuts I am....
Boyfriend works out every Sunday at 7am.
Yesterday he left even earlier
so he could be back in time for brunch.

When the babies started screaming and Boyfriend wasn't there,
I started to get mad.
He should have been here
And I should have been allowed to sleep in
the day should have been special
It was my first Mother's Day!
The day should have been special
and it wasn't.

But I didn't even know I felt that way until I woke up yesterday
and the babies started screaming.

If I had told Boyfriend on Saturday that I wanted to sleep in,
he would have stayed home and let me sleep.
And now I feel crazy
for even getting mad at him in the first place!

We went to brunch with my mom and sister
and I ate entirely too much.
My sister gave me some pretty flowers

and then we stoppedby my Grandma's.
My dad & step-mom happened to stop by too.

At home I got to take a short (very short) nap with Eli
I think it was the highlight of my day.

Then Boyfriend's family came over
and we ate pizza with them.

If I learned anything from yesterday
It's not to place expectations on a holiday
or on people.
There's know way they'll live up to them
if I don't verbalize my expectations.

How was your day?

7 comments:

  1. Thats so great that you realized the importance of vocalizing what you NEED after you have kids! That let to many stressful situations with my husband until we figured it out! Sounds like a nice day to me though! Lots of food that you didn't have to cook....and ANY nap with kids is a good nap :)

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  2. Yeah, the day started out bad, but it got better.

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  3. Glad you realized that one quickly! I had that same conversation with a friend of mine last week. I NEVER ever {and I mean that} have ANY expectations. And therefore, I am NEVER diappointed or let down....ever. But there have been some situations when I am highly and very pleasantly surprised. So I bank on that route. Some say I settle. I say I am realistic. This is the life I have choosen. Sorry momma...you don't need to hear it {I don't think} but YOU ROCK as a momma. I am sooooo proud of you and how you are handling the twins and your new life and role. Tell him. When you want something, just tell him. He seems nice enough to oblige. ;-) Mine, well....er....such is the life I have choosen. ;-0

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  4. I totally have been right there with you on this one...sometimes we think that they can read our minds :)....I guess we need to be a bit more vocal with what we want!!

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  5. Gosh, I am so guilty of that as well (silent expectations). I know it's something I need to work on, but it's so hard! I'm sorry the day wasn't everything you wanted it to be. But on the other hand, those are some DAMN CUTE LITTLE FACES on your boys! I love seeing pics of them--they are precious. :)

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  6. I'm still glad there were glimpses of joy in your day. It wasn't ruined just a bump in the road. There is a quote I love can't remember who said it. "People don't disappoint us, we disappoint ourselves by the expectations we place in others" Happy Belated Mother's Day!

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  7. i'm glad your mother's day ended well. an unhappy mother on mother's day is like bad karma. so glad flowers and brunch made it in your day. i know that always brightens my day.

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